A Suicidal Mom and the Bully Who Reached Her

Brianna Langley • Feb 15, 2018

As the phone rang on the other end, Elina* didn’t know what to expect.

How would her Hindu priest react when she told him she was planning to take her own life? That she was at the end of her rope? That even the thought of her three kids wasn’t enough to stop her?

She longed for words of comfort and direction.

Instead, the priest promptly told her he was too busy to deal with her.

So when her friend had suggested Elina call their Christian pastor before doing anything, she had nothing to lose.

But Simon Kumaresal is no ordinary pastor. His large build and deep voice are enough to intimidate almost anyone. And his dark eyes tell the story of his checkered past.

Simon was an alcoholic before he turned 22. Before he was saved, Simon lived a life that revolved around stealing money and bullying people — to the point that he caused two people to commit suicide.

That might sound like an odd person to talk someone off the ledge. But that day, he was Elina’s last hope.

A Bully Turned Pastor

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After Simon was saved, he and his wife, Christine, decided to pursue a life of ministry. But first, they needed a solid Bible education. Photo by TEAM

For Simon, his last hope had come in the form of a tenacious pastor, years earlier.

“Almost every day, he was around, and I would be drunk or whatever. And, he was so persistent. He was there,” Simon says. “He would comfort me, mentor me, talk to me about Jesus Christ.”

One day, the pastor asked whether Simon believed he was going to heaven or hell, and the walls around Simon’s heart finally crumbled.

Before he knew it, tears of repentance were streaming down his face. Simon gave his heart to Christ that day and never looked back.

Less than a year later, Simon and his wife, Christine sensed God calling them to a life of ministry. Through the recommendation of a friend, they found Durban Bible College and enrolled.

Before Simon even graduated, he was pastoring a church.

A Pastor Willing to Listen

When Elina called her friend’s pastor that day, she was astonished by the response. Simon not only answered the phone but also talked with her and even prayed with her. He assured her that suicide was not the answer.

“The pastor had time for me,” Elina says. “He didn’t even know me, but [he heard] me out, helped me through.”

Soon, Elina began visiting Simon’s church. In just over one month, she gave her heart to the only One who could truly care for it — Jesus.

Her Son Saw the Transformation

Not everyone was thrilled with Elina’s conversion.

When Elina told her 19-year-old son, Harith*, about her newfound faith, his response was loud and clear: “Keep your Christian religion to yourself. Keep your Jesus to yourself. … I’m born a Hindu; I’ll die a Hindu.”

But even Harith couldn’t deny the change in his mother. Eventually, he agreed to accompany her to church — and wait in the car until the service ended.

Elina was undaunted. She kept inviting her son to church, and the next time he went, he decided to go inside.

After the sermon, he thanked Simon for helping his mother. And then, he couldn’t help but cry.

When Simon asked him what was wrong, all Harith could say was, “I don’t know. I think your Jesus got a hold of me. I just feel so loved.

That day, Harith gave his life to the Savior he’d said he never wanted.

He Wanted His Dad to Know Christ

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Thanks to your support, graduates of local Bible schools are being equipped to share the Gospel and see whole families and communities come to Christ. Photo by TEAM

Harith was determined to share this Good News with one person in particular: his father, Elina’s ex-husband.

After some persuading, Harith’s father, Mohan*, agreed to go with his son to a Sunday church service. Just like his son, he opted to stay in the car until it was over.

But Simon had seen this before. Without hesitation, he went up to the car and invited Mohan to come inside.

“I’m gonna come with ashes over my head,” Mohan said, referencing Hindu tradition.

“Then come with your ashes over your head,” said Simon patiently. “In fact, you can come with the entire temple too.”

So Mohan started attending church services with his son.

And after many weeks, many questions and many tears, he too gave his heart to Christ.

An Entire Family Saved — Thanks to You!

Through one man’s choice to enroll in Durban Bible College, an entire family was brought to faith. Even Elina’s two young daughters, who are only 13 and 4 years old, are now witnessing to their friends and neighbors.

Elina’s story is incredible, but it isn’t out of the ordinary.

Through support from friends like you, Bible colleges train and equip believers to step out in faith every day! And the results are incredible.

Simon and Christine know they are fortunate to see firsthand the fruits of their labor.

“You know, it’s people like [Elina] that make us realize that God put us here for a reason,” said Christine. “If we didn’t have that conversation with her that day when she wanted to commit suicide, she wouldn’t be where she is now.”

*Names changed to protect privacy.

By Suzanne Pearson 16 Apr, 2024
TEAM Canada provides warm welcome and trusted friendships for diaspora populations living far from their native countries. As TEAM Canada workers Peter and Ruth (names changed) drive from their home to a nearby community center, they pass numerous apartment buildings and townhouses. Most of the families who live there are immigrants. They’ve left their countries of origin due to political unrest, trauma, and other difficulties. They’ve left family, friends, homes, jobs, and personal wealth behind. They search for peace, justice for the oppressed, and rest from fear and weariness. And as they adjust to a new country and a new language, they are often very isolated from others around them. “The sad reality is most immigrants are never even invited inside a Canadian home,” says Ruth. Peter and Ruth and their team try to change that reality. For the last nine years, the team, which includes workers from partner organizations as well as volunteers, has held English classes at the community center. Three days a week, over 60 students from more than 20 countries come together to learn English as well as to fellowship together and receive practical help in assimilating to a new normal. Meeting Needs and Building Trust That practical help may come in the form of procuring furniture, clothes, or dishes for newcomers, assistance with creating a resume and finding a job, or teaching people how to navigate Canadian laws and the medical system. As these tangible needs are met, relationships are built. “We invite them into our homes for meals and games,” Ruth shares. “We take them on hiking trips, picnics, outings, and out for coffee.” This is particularly important in this type of ministry because most immigrants come to Canada from cultures that value hospitality. Conversely, Canadians do not typically prioritize hospitality and consequently many newcomers feel lonely and isolated. Inviting folks to various gatherings and outings allows the team to spend extended time hearing people’s stories, struggles, hopes, and dreams. When she speaks about building friendships, Ruth’s heart for the people she serves is evident. “Hearing their stories, it’s easy to love them, and many have become close friends,” Ruth says. “We recognize the value of steady one-on-one relationships.”
By Suzanne Pearson 19 Mar, 2024
Previously on the TEAM blog, we sat down with Justin Burkholder (pictured above at left, with TEAM's Executive Director of Communications, Aaron Catlin). Justin will become TEAM’s next International Director on July 1, 2024. Justin shared about his background, family, and the journey that led him to TEAM. Check out that interview here . Today, we pick up the conversation as Justin shares how God called him to the role of International Director, and what he sees for the next chapter in TEAM’s work in the global Church. Q: How and when did you first consider applying for the position of International Director? How did the Lord reveal Himself to you as this opportunity presented itself? A: For some time, I have been evaluating how God wants me to use the gifts He has given me. Jenny and I have had a fruitful ministry in church planting in Guatemala and would happily continue doing so as God leads. However, as God blessed my efforts in TEAM leadership, there were friends and family who expressed that I should consider using my gifts in the International Director role. I don’t believe that everything necessarily rises and falls on leadership, but I do believe that it is a core component in the body of Christ. Using the gifts God has given me is a way that I want to bless the body of Christ in TEAM, making my contribution to the global purposes of God’s mission. Jenny and I spent a lot of time praying about this and decided that I should put my name in for consideration, trusting God’s guidance. We had a tremendous amount of peace throughout the entire process and were blessed by the prayer-filled process that the board undertook. Q: This is a key role in a large and complex organization, and I’m sure this was a big decision for you and your family. What were your fears or concerns? Why did you ultimately decide to accept the position? A: You say “were” like the fears have passed! I still am quite aware of my youth and inexperience - of the responsibility and weight of this role. Mostly, I’m afraid of leading an organization like TEAM in the flesh. Many of the fears that I have faced have been fears rooted in fleshly desires and concerns. I have no desire to succeed in the world’s eyes and fail in the Kingdom of Jesus. Why did I ultimately decide to accept the position? I’m convinced that the Good News about Jesus is true. The tomb is empty, Jesus is King, and the world needs to know, because Jesus is coming back. He will put things in order. He will establish righteousness, peace, and justice for all mankind, and He has commissioned His Church to proclaim and demonstrate His rule and reign. I want to use my gifts to do whatever I can to amplify the proclamation of this message and the multiplication of His Church around the world. Q: What are your goals and vision for the future of TEAM? A: This is something that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about. I’m certainly not ready to present a fully-shaped vision and goals for TEAM’s future without the input of other people in different contexts in TEAM. But, I will share a few things that I think are important: First, we need to model God-Dependence . I am hopeful that as leaders in TEAM, we can continue to model God-Dependence. As Hudson Taylor said years ago “…God’s work, done in God’s way, will never lack God’s supplies.” I am hopeful that we can increase our sense of faith in God, prayer, and seeking direction from the Spirit. Secondly, we must strengthen our relational fabric . Due to the changes that we have experienced by decentralizing our home office functions, and the challenges from the pandemic, we have experienced a loss of relationships. It is imperative that we intentionally prioritize the building of relationships with one another. I plan to visit our workers and staff, and I am expectant that other key leaders and staff will be doing the same. Third, we must pursue the greater presence of the global Church. The Kingdom of Jesus Christ doesn’t look like any single geopolitical, ethnic, or racial culture. If we want to truly see the Kingdom of Jesus come on earth as it is in heaven, then we as citizens of this Kingdom must learn from one another, submit to one another, and grow with one another. The missional potential of the global Church has been unleashed by God’s Spirit since Acts 1, and we have an opportunity to learn from many brothers and sisters in Christ who can help us to better model and proclaim the Kingdom of Jesus to those who have yet to believe. Lastly, we must increase our Gospel boldness . There are still many places of great spiritual blindness and spiritual brokenness around the world. The apostolic impulse of cross-cultural organizations should call us to the to the edges of where the Kingdom of Jesus is not penetrating. Whether spiritual blindness and brokenness exists because of lack of access, idolatry, injustice, or any other myriad of reasons, I prayerfully hope to see more and more TEAM workers continue to move into spaces of great Gospel need.
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