Why Missionary Kids Need Missionaries, Too
When it comes to reaching the lost, few people think of missionary kids. After all, their parents are the ultimate Christians, right?
But according to TEAM missionaries Seth and Laura O’Day, the MK status as super Christian offspring can be exactly what hinders them from becoming devout believers themselves.
“They’ve gotten used to burying things … because it looks bad for their family if they’re obviously having a problem with something,” says Seth.
And what could look worse than an MK having doubts about God?
When MKs struggle with their faith, many would rather pretend than reach out for help. But at Faith Academy in Manila, Philippines, teachers like Seth and Laura are working to change that.
Faking the Faith
Faith Academy was founded as an MK school and has grown to include children of ambassadors, international business people, and local Filipinos.
MK or not, most students have some kind of Christian background, but Laura says their responses to that background vary widely.
“Have they made it their own? Or are they running away from it at full speed, or just plodding along and ignoring things, or what?” Laura says.
In a school culture where everything revolves around Christianity, it’s easy to fake at least a lukewarm faith. That’s why true relationships with students are vital to discovering what’s really happening inside.
Opening Doors through Friendship
Laura and Seth have both taught in the States, so they were surprised at the vast opportunities to build relationships with students at Faith Academy.
“It would be unthinkable for an American teacher to friend a student on Facebook,” Seth says. “Yet, that is rather common at Faith Academy because the teachers are all friends with your parents, and you might hang out with them after school, or … they might come to your house for dinner.”
The O’Days have made a point of taking on extracurricular roles within the school.
Laura teaches French but has also coached the school’s academic bowl team on the side. In addition to teaching science, Seth has served as a class advisor, helping students elect class governments, hold fundraisers and organize special events.
“[Students] would often come to me if they had things … they needed to talk about,” Seth says. “They knew that they could talk to me because I care about them and their class.”
When bullying broke out in one class, Laura and other teachers used their relationships to guide students through exercises of restoration and healing.
Through the process, it came out that one of the bully ringleaders was going through a difficult transition with her family. She didn’t know how to handle it and was taking it out on her classmate.
With their teachers’ help, the students not only welcomed the victim back into the fold but also extended grace to the bullies.
“As those students … moved into high school, the community in that class was pretty remarkable because they had walked through that together,” Laura says.
Building True Faith
As the O’Days build relationships with students, God continues to open doors for discipleship. Ultimately, they hope students will develop a faith that lasts outside Faith Academy.
“I know how easy it is for them to fall away from the faith,” Seth says. “I’ve seen the statistics. … So that’s the thing I pray most, … that they’ll be rooted and established and be able to weather the storms that are coming without giving up their faith.”
So, when students are excited about their faith, Seth and Laura teach them how to live that out. When students are lukewarm, the O’Days show them how to heat up their faith.
And when students are struggling with their faith — or running away at full speed — the O’Days don’t let them pretend. Day by day, these missionaries invite students into the light, where they can know the healing grace of God.
The students may not become missionaries or be known for impressive piety, but with openness and honest discipleship, they can live full lives of faith that influence the world for Christ.
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Thank you for writing this article. I have a lot of missionary friends and just found out that one of the “stronger” Christian missionary kids actually does not even believe in the Bible. He is struggling with his faith and I feel as though he is about to give up. I have tried to invest some time to talk to him about this but I honestly do not even know where to start. I feel intimidated. Are there any resources you can point me to to help me through this?
Thank you for your time!
I talked asked Seth and Laura for advice, and they had a few recommendations.
Seth recommended The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel and God’s Undertaker by John Lennox. He said, “Those are both complete books, but the sense of that comment suggests that a simple article isn’t going to cut it with this young man. He needs meaty reasons to hold his faith.”
Laura pointed me to Michele Phoenix, a writer and MK advocate. Her website is http://michelephoenix.com. She was an MK herself, has spent a lot of time working with MKs at various stages and has done a good amount of research, too. She has a lot of articles that might help you come up with conversation starters, questions to ask and ways to hear.
She said this article is a good place to start.
Laura also added:
“It is worth remembering, in any case, that this young man will have to walk his own path with God. It is good to continue to point him to truth. It is terribly important to listen to him, to hear what’s going on in his heart, and to acknowledge those thoughts and ideas as real. He needs both of those things. He may not respond to any of it at the moment; all of this may be seeds that take years to grow to fruition. But showing him that he is valued and that God is true– those are worthwhile work no matter how he responds right now.”
I hope that helps! May God guide you in this journey!
I would like to find out if you are in contact with some missionaries who are involved in serving people with disabilities. Am looking forward to being linked with such missionaries so that together we bring Christ into the lives of persons with disabilities. Is there anything that you wrote concerning disability ministry that could help in reaching out to these people? Am a person living with a disability who has a passion for my fellow disabled persons.There is need to bring to light the challenges and the potential hidden in the lives of disabled people that needs to be exploited for the good of the kingdom. God bless you
Hello! I love hearing about your passion for serving those with disabilities! Thanks for sharing. We did publish this article about TEAM missionaries tending to the needs of disabled persons, so feel free to check it out! TEAM’s opportunities in this field can be broad, but feel free to check out team.org/opportunities to discover ways you can get involved. God bless!