Why “Us vs. Them” Won’t Reach a Lost World

Josh McQuaid • Nov 27, 2017

In Luke 10 , Jesus calls the crowds to “[love] your neighbor as yourself,” prompting a religious leader to ask, “And who is my neighbor?” Luke tells us the lawyer intended the question to “justify himself.”

How does the question justify the questioner? By limiting those he was responsible to love.

In an earlier post , I shared my belief that, when it comes to mobilizing people toward global missions , we often fail because we tend to wield the law instead of meeting people with the Gospel.

The religious ruler of Luke 10 asks a question that naturally rises out of law-based thinking: How much am I responsible to give? When do I get to punch out and go back to doing what I want to do?

In this post, I’ll look at two ways mission motivators often fall into the same trap, reinforcing categories that rise from “how much is enough” thinking rather than redefining categories in light of the Gospel.

Us vs. Them

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Each of us has a natural inclination to view the world through an “us vs. them” lens. We tend to hang out with people who agree with us and to see those with whom we disagree as “other.” We do this in small areas (food, sports teams) and large ones (family, faith).

This isn’t always intentional or malicious. But the results of ignoring our “us vs. them” lens are problematic.

Think about the way that we often talk about an unreached people group, an undeveloped village or a community aggressively opposed to Christianity. Do our mission motivators draw on our shared humanity and shared lostness, or do they play up the differences between “us and them”? Do we play to our desire to do good, to be the world’s savior?

The law — left to itself — draws a sharp line between us vs. them that only the Gospel can overcome.

Law highlights difference and imposes distance. It tells me that I’m better and they’re worse. It tells me that they need me, and isn’t it wonderful that I don’t need them?

But the law is fickle and it will quickly begin to accuse me of not having done enough when that accusation suits.

On the other hand, the Good News of Jesus is that though we were all once far off, Christ drew near and died for the ungodly. The Gospel of Jesus breaks down the wall dividing “us” and “them,” showing us to all be alike in our need for God’s grace and mercy.

The lost, then, are not “them” and “other” but “us,” “me” and “we.” When I think about a distant community without Christ, the Gospel reminds me that, but for the grace of God, that would be me. And the Gospel reminds me that the lost don’t need me; the lost need Christ just as I too need Him.

Here vs. There

us vs. them

Just as we naturally see the world in “us vs. them” categories, we’re naturally inclined to see the world through a “here vs. there” lens.

Some “here vs. there” thinking is unavoidable and even appropriate. Challenges to the advance of the Gospel are different in different locations. Cultural differences are real.

But we often overemphasize these differences.

We in the missions world are notorious for elevating international work — especially to unreached peoples — over domestic work. Think of the famous Oswald Smith quote, “No one has the right to hear the Gospel twice, while there remains someone who has not heard it once.”

Others have focused on domestic ministry and argued we are wrong to overlook local needs on our way to serve those an ocean away.

The Law encourages this kind of division because, after all, I want a law I can fulfill. Creating neat categories of “here” and “there” lets me focus on one thing to the exclusion of something else. It also encourages me to elevate those with whom I agree and villainize those who disagree with me.

But God’s mission can’t be boiled down to the binary categories of “here” or “there.” All of our world’s lostness and brokenness — near and far — matters to God. And all God’s people are called to reach all who need Him, regardless of where we happen to sleep at night.

Christians aren’t called to reach the “here” or the “there.” We’re called to reach both the “here” and the “there.”

The point of the Parable of the Good Samaritan is just this: The “neighbor” God calls me to love isn’t limited by social or ethnic markers, and real fulfillment of God’s law manifests itself in a love for neighbors that flows from the love of God.

Sin is sin. Gospel is Gospel. People are people. God’s work is God’s work. Regardless of geography. Limiting missions to whatever we most deeply resonate with neither does justice to the enormity of the task at hand nor to the greatness of the God we serve.

Where the law alone encourages us to limit our sense of responsibility, the Gospel expands our vision. And — thanks be to God — the Gospel also brings with it the truth of Christ’s work on our behalf and the power of God’s Spirit to engage this enlarged vision of mission.

So…What Should We Do?

I started both posts in this series by pushing back on our desire for quick fixes. But all of this might leave you wondering, if there is no silver bullet for these challenges, what can be done?

In this case, I believe the Reformed tradition has a helpful exhortation for us all.

Reformed Christians love to talk about the ordinary means of God’s grace for us as believers: scripture, prayer and sacraments. They believe that, while God gave us all we need in Christ, it is through the regular participation in these three areas that we continually receive what we need to be God’s people in God’s world.

But here’s where people often get disappointed: The ways we experience these means of grace are, by and large, boring.

Sometimes God speaks great truths that are profound and timely. Most of the time, however, we encounter the quiet, simple truths of Scripture and are changed gradually over time as Christ, by His Spirit, applies those truths to our experience and conforms us more and more to the image of Christ.

We encounter these means of grace as we study Scripture and hear it clearly taught. We pray personally and corporately and are reminded of how God wants His world to look.

We celebrate communion with brothers and sisters and we’re reminded of Christ’s finished work on our behalf and His grace in welcoming us into His family. And we are sent from the table to love and serve those who don’t yet know Him.

What does all of this mean for those of us who want to motivate God’s people towards global missions ?

Go to church. Read Scripture and encourage others to do the same. Preach and teach the truth of God’s mercy and grace, and the ways that this grace calls us to engage the world. Pray lots. Be part of the life of your church and help others to do the same.

This ministry takes time, but there is no solution apart from, as Eugene Peterson put it, “A long obedience in the same direction.” In the end, Peterson’s own ministry is a good encouragement to us:

“I was neither capable nor competent to form Christ in another person, to shape the life of discipleship in man, woman or child. That is supernatural work, and I am not supernatural. Mine was the more modest work of Scripture and prayer — helping people listen to God speak to them from the Scriptures and then joining them in answering God as personally and honestly as we could in lives of prayer. This turned out to be slow work. From time to time, impatient with slowness, I would try out ways of going about my work that promised quicker results. But after a while it always seemed to be more like meddling in these people’s lives than helping them attend to God.”

By Megan Lunsford 23 Apr, 2024
When seeking to serve cross-culturally with an authentic love for others, there’s no better example for us than Jesus. If we sat around a table and threw out the question, “How do we love like Jesus?” I think we would have several commonalities as we respond. For example, Jesus loved all people right where they were. He loved those who were deemed the least, those hardest to love, or those who were His enemies. These are all beautiful realities of the heart of Jesus. When we step into relationships, it can be easier to take on the warmer, more gracious gestures of Jesus’ love, especially in cross-cultural relationships. Think about it––when doing life with those who look and act differently than us, we are already out of our comfort zones and would rather keep things as simple and familiar as possible. But there are other facets of Jesus’ heart we often overlook that can transform us and others even more into His likeness. Jesus is love because God is love. Everything Jesus did was out of love; it’s the mere definition of who He is. As followers of Jesus, He calls us to the same: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” (1 John:7-12) Every display of love we offer to others is an opportunity for them to encounter the ultimate love of the Father. That’s a pretty big deal! In this article, we’ll look at three expressions of Jesus’ love that we tend to overlook when engaging others cross-culturally. (Next month, we’ll look at three more.) 1. Jesus loved sacrificially. Everywhere Jesus went, crowds followed Him. We even see times in Scripture where Jesus had plans to step away for time alone but those who were hurting found Him and He had compassion on them and stayed with them. Can you imagine rarely having any time to yourself but, instead, constantly being surrounded by crowds of people wanting help from you? Jesus loved sacrificially. He welcomed all who came to Him with love and compassion, never turning anyone away. “When He saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” (Matthew 9:36) In the same way, we can make room in our lives for Jesus to bring sacrificial interruptions which, in His eyes, are orchestrated encounters to transfer His love to others. It can be tempting to be so “on mission” that we are full steam ahead and find ourselves frustrated when the Holy Spirit sends an interruption into our path that we feel we don’t have time for. Or, perhaps, we have scheduled a meet-up but it’s the norm in another culture to be 30 minutes or an hour late. We anxiously think through how it will affect whatever we have planned next. While it’s normal to feel a little stressed, what if the very "interruption” standing in front of you was really a divine appointment sent by God? Or what if that person running late experiences how peaceful and gracious you are in adapting to their culture and therefore, they can encounter a beautiful display of Jesus’ love? To truly represent Christ, we should remain ready and willing for each assignment the Lord sends into our path, no matter the cost or how much we will have to re-route our day. He is always a hundred steps ahead and will work all things for His glory and our good. 2. Jesus loved by discerning each situation well. Think about how many situations Jesus had to respond to on a daily basis. We read in Scripture that there were lines of people waiting to be healed by Him, talk to Him, hear His teachings, or simply touch the hem of His robe. Jesus was fully dependent on His Father to discern each situation before addressing it. “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” (John 5:19) Another temptation we can have when in a relationship with those God has sent us to is to think we already know the solution or what God wants to do before we’ve even asked Him. We believe we are full of knowledge, so we just pull from the bank we have stored within and go with it. However, when we access what is familiar to us as our default, we risk missing out on a God-given solution that might truly be the key to unlocking whatever challenge is in front of us. What does this look like when interacting with others? We can simply ask, “God, what is on Your heart for the person standing in front of me?” Then we listen and respond as He speaks. When we make it a daily habit to pause and hear God’s heart for each situation before responding, we are guaranteed to be effective in loving those around us. He knows the heart of every person that will cross our paths. Imagine how impactful we can be if we first lean on His wisdom and discernment before moving forward. 3. Jesus loved by speaking truth. Most of us are familiar with the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well. If we are honest, this conversation makes us a bit nervous as none of us would be comfortable with Jesus calling out intimate details of our lives that we would prefer to hide. But Jesus went further than just airing her dirty laundry. He offered her the hope of the Gospel and a relationship with Him - a divine fulfillment that could never be found in an earthly relationship. Jesus modeled a powerful example of loving others well cross-culturally. He took the low place and spoke truth, truly out of love––speaking to her heart from His. Like Jesus, our goal in sharing the truths about Him and His Word is to bring hope and satisfaction through Him alone. When we speak truth from Scripture, we are calling others higher into all God has for them. The tricky part here is we should avoid speaking truth if it isn’t first fueled by compassion. If it merely comes from a place of judgment, condemnation, or self-righteousness, it will fall flat 100% of the time. But if it truly comes from love, you are likely to not only win a heart back to the Father but, like the story of the Samaritan woman, even an entire village! If you see someone living outside of God’s best for their lives, ask God to show you your heart before engaging theirs. Once your heart is properly postured, you can speak truth out of an overflow of God’s love and trust Him for a transformation in their lives.
By Suzanne Pearson 16 Apr, 2024
TEAM Canada provides warm welcome and trusted friendships for diaspora populations living far from their native countries. As TEAM Canada workers Peter and Ruth (names changed) drive from their home to a nearby community center, they pass numerous apartment buildings and townhouses. Most of the families who live there are immigrants. They’ve left their countries of origin due to political unrest, trauma, and other difficulties. They’ve left family, friends, homes, jobs, and personal wealth behind. They search for peace, justice for the oppressed, and rest from fear and weariness. And as they adjust to a new country and a new language, they are often very isolated from others around them. “The sad reality is most immigrants are never even invited inside a Canadian home,” says Ruth. Peter and Ruth and their team try to change that reality. For the last nine years, the team, which includes workers from partner organizations as well as volunteers, has held English classes at the community center. Three days a week, over 60 students from more than 20 countries come together to learn English as well as to fellowship together and receive practical help in assimilating to a new normal. Meeting Needs and Building Trust That practical help may come in the form of procuring furniture, clothes, or dishes for newcomers, assistance with creating a resume and finding a job, or teaching people how to navigate Canadian laws and the medical system. As these tangible needs are met, relationships are built. “We invite them into our homes for meals and games,” Ruth shares. “We take them on hiking trips, picnics, outings, and out for coffee.” This is particularly important in this type of ministry because most immigrants come to Canada from cultures that value hospitality. Conversely, Canadians do not typically prioritize hospitality and consequently many newcomers feel lonely and isolated. Inviting folks to various gatherings and outings allows the team to spend extended time hearing people’s stories, struggles, hopes, and dreams. When she speaks about building friendships, Ruth’s heart for the people she serves is evident. “Hearing their stories, it’s easy to love them, and many have become close friends,” Ruth says. “We recognize the value of steady one-on-one relationships.”
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