She Gave Up Her Parents — and She’s Not Sorry

Brianna Langley • Feb 22, 2018

When Liyana* decided to go to Bible college , she knew her ancestor-worshipping father probably wouldn’t take it well.

But she didn’t expect her Christian mother to disapprove. She certainly didn’t expect to be kicked out of the house!

In a flash, she went from living in a nice neighborhood to worrying about having bus money — or running water. All that, just because she wanted to share the Gospel with her fellow South Africans.

Raised in Two Religions

Liyana grew up between two different spiritual worlds.

Her mother came from a strong Christian background. Her father came from Zionism — a syncretic religion that fuses Christianity with traditional African animism. Eventually, he even became a nyanga , or “ traditional healer.”

Unsurprisingly, Liyana’s parents divorced while she was still young. But Liyana managed to straddle the two worlds of her parents for 17 years.

And then, one day, she met Phillip.

Bible College Grad Leads Her to Christ

Phillip had attended Durban Bible College , a school where TEAM missionaries and other believers disciple aspiring church leaders.

Liyana’s moment of truth came when Phillip was preaching near her hometown.

“A light came into my life that day for the first time. I never knew I had darkness,” says Liyana, “but when he preached about the Light, suddenly I knew the difference between light and darkness.”

Liyana accepted Christ that day.

Drawn to a Life of Ministry

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Liyana spent her college years ministering to the homeless, and her passion for sharing the Gospel only grew. Photo by TEAM

During her college years, Liyana became heavily involved in homeless and streetside ministry.

Shortly after graduating, Liyana resigned from her job at a logistics company to work at a local church.

Three years later, she felt it was still not enough.

“I felt that the Holy Spirit had really impressed upon me to go and study the Word,” says Liyana. “So, I went to Pastor Phillip because I knew that he had gone to a Bible college.”

Phillip advised her to attend his alma mater. That same year, Liyana enrolled — and instantly became the family disappointment.

Disowned for Going to Bible College

In Liyana’s mother’s eyes, her only daughter had wasted a university education and given up a high position in a good company for nothing.

Liyana was kicked out of her mother’s home and had to go live with Phillip and his wife.

Phillip’s neighborhood was nothing like what Liyana was used to. Her first week there, the water got shut off, and Liyana had to learn how to use a government tap system.

“That was a huge transition for me,” Liyana says.

But as Liyana started attending classes and getting to know her teachers, she realized her sacrifice had been worth it. TEAM missionaries and DBC professors Brian and Joyce Flickner were a special encouragement to her.

“I did not have that relationship with my dad,” she says. “So, one of the things that God … sort of exposed me to [through Brian] was a father.”

Joyce served as Liyana’s mentor — meeting with her every few weeks for counseling or just to talk.

Little did Liyana know, the close relationship she’d developed with Brian and Joyce would carry on long after graduation.

Reaching the Marginalized and Hopeless

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TEAM missionary and DBC professor Brian Flickner helped mentor Liyana and her classmate as they planted their own church. Photo by TEAM

Liyana and her DBC classmate, Kwanele, began helping a church with their homeless ministry. But they quickly realized the pastor was preaching a false gospel.

They spoke with a member of the church and convinced him to attend DBC and learn the Word for himself.

“Then things just began from there,” says Liyana. “People would just start calling us, even from within the church, because the Word was not being preached properly.”

That’s when Liyana and Kwanele felt the Lord calling them to plant their own church in the impoverished area.

And that’s exactly what they did. But not until after they’d asked Brian and Joyce to serve as their spiritual mentors throughout the process.

A Light Now Shines in the Darkness — Thank You!

Liyana and Kwanele minister in an area riddled with drug addicts, prostitutes and murderers.

“You have to give them food, then gain their trust, then … start ministering to them,” says Liyana.

The process is slow — but the need is great.

Not only are drug-related killings rampant, but killings of an even darker nature are starting to crop up in the streets where Liyana ministers.

People are being kidnapped, killed and mutilated for witchcraft. In fact, Liyana and Kwanele have already lost one of their own church members to the mystery killers.

But for Liyana, this obvious depravity is fuel to keep preaching the Gospel and encouraging more Christians to attend Bible college.

“Here in Durban, I know there is no Bible college that still … maintains the basics of the Bible,” says Liyana. “The Gospel is really diluted and compromised, and a lot of deception is out there, even in some of the Bible colleges. DBC is still maintaining and really standing on teaching the Truth.”

*Name changed for privacy.

By Megan Lunsford 23 Apr, 2024
When seeking to serve cross-culturally with an authentic love for others, there’s no better example for us than Jesus. If we sat around a table and threw out the question, “How do we love like Jesus?” I think we would have several commonalities as we respond. For example, Jesus loved all people right where they were. He loved those who were deemed the least, those hardest to love, or those who were His enemies. These are all beautiful realities of the heart of Jesus. When we step into relationships, it can be easier to take on the warmer, more gracious gestures of Jesus’ love, especially in cross-cultural relationships. Think about it––when doing life with those who look and act differently than us, we are already out of our comfort zones and would rather keep things as simple and familiar as possible. But there are other facets of Jesus’ heart we often overlook that can transform us and others even more into His likeness. Jesus is love because God is love. Everything Jesus did was out of love; it’s the mere definition of who He is. As followers of Jesus, He calls us to the same: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” (1 John:7-12) Every display of love we offer to others is an opportunity for them to encounter the ultimate love of the Father. That’s a pretty big deal! In this article, we’ll look at three expressions of Jesus’ love that we tend to overlook when engaging others cross-culturally. (Next month, we’ll look at three more.) 1. Jesus loved sacrificially. Everywhere Jesus went, crowds followed Him. We even see times in Scripture where Jesus had plans to step away for time alone but those who were hurting found Him and He had compassion on them and stayed with them. Can you imagine rarely having any time to yourself but, instead, constantly being surrounded by crowds of people wanting help from you? Jesus loved sacrificially. He welcomed all who came to Him with love and compassion, never turning anyone away. “When He saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” (Matthew 9:36) In the same way, we can make room in our lives for Jesus to bring sacrificial interruptions which, in His eyes, are orchestrated encounters to transfer His love to others. It can be tempting to be so “on mission” that we are full steam ahead and find ourselves frustrated when the Holy Spirit sends an interruption into our path that we feel we don’t have time for. Or, perhaps, we have scheduled a meet-up but it’s the norm in another culture to be 30 minutes or an hour late. We anxiously think through how it will affect whatever we have planned next. While it’s normal to feel a little stressed, what if the very "interruption” standing in front of you was really a divine appointment sent by God? Or what if that person running late experiences how peaceful and gracious you are in adapting to their culture and therefore, they can encounter a beautiful display of Jesus’ love? To truly represent Christ, we should remain ready and willing for each assignment the Lord sends into our path, no matter the cost or how much we will have to re-route our day. He is always a hundred steps ahead and will work all things for His glory and our good. 2. Jesus loved by discerning each situation well. Think about how many situations Jesus had to respond to on a daily basis. We read in Scripture that there were lines of people waiting to be healed by Him, talk to Him, hear His teachings, or simply touch the hem of His robe. Jesus was fully dependent on His Father to discern each situation before addressing it. “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” (John 5:19) Another temptation we can have when in a relationship with those God has sent us to is to think we already know the solution or what God wants to do before we’ve even asked Him. We believe we are full of knowledge, so we just pull from the bank we have stored within and go with it. However, when we access what is familiar to us as our default, we risk missing out on a God-given solution that might truly be the key to unlocking whatever challenge is in front of us. What does this look like when interacting with others? We can simply ask, “God, what is on Your heart for the person standing in front of me?” Then we listen and respond as He speaks. When we make it a daily habit to pause and hear God’s heart for each situation before responding, we are guaranteed to be effective in loving those around us. He knows the heart of every person that will cross our paths. Imagine how impactful we can be if we first lean on His wisdom and discernment before moving forward. 3. Jesus loved by speaking truth. Most of us are familiar with the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well. If we are honest, this conversation makes us a bit nervous as none of us would be comfortable with Jesus calling out intimate details of our lives that we would prefer to hide. But Jesus went further than just airing her dirty laundry. He offered her the hope of the Gospel and a relationship with Him - a divine fulfillment that could never be found in an earthly relationship. Jesus modeled a powerful example of loving others well cross-culturally. He took the low place and spoke truth, truly out of love––speaking to her heart from His. Like Jesus, our goal in sharing the truths about Him and His Word is to bring hope and satisfaction through Him alone. When we speak truth from Scripture, we are calling others higher into all God has for them. The tricky part here is we should avoid speaking truth if it isn’t first fueled by compassion. If it merely comes from a place of judgment, condemnation, or self-righteousness, it will fall flat 100% of the time. But if it truly comes from love, you are likely to not only win a heart back to the Father but, like the story of the Samaritan woman, even an entire village! If you see someone living outside of God’s best for their lives, ask God to show you your heart before engaging theirs. Once your heart is properly postured, you can speak truth out of an overflow of God’s love and trust Him for a transformation in their lives.
By Suzanne Pearson 16 Apr, 2024
TEAM Canada provides warm welcome and trusted friendships for diaspora populations living far from their native countries. As TEAM Canada workers Peter and Ruth (names changed) drive from their home to a nearby community center, they pass numerous apartment buildings and townhouses. Most of the families who live there are immigrants. They’ve left their countries of origin due to political unrest, trauma, and other difficulties. They’ve left family, friends, homes, jobs, and personal wealth behind. They search for peace, justice for the oppressed, and rest from fear and weariness. And as they adjust to a new country and a new language, they are often very isolated from others around them. “The sad reality is most immigrants are never even invited inside a Canadian home,” says Ruth. Peter and Ruth and their team try to change that reality. For the last nine years, the team, which includes workers from partner organizations as well as volunteers, has held English classes at the community center. Three days a week, over 60 students from more than 20 countries come together to learn English as well as to fellowship together and receive practical help in assimilating to a new normal. Meeting Needs and Building Trust That practical help may come in the form of procuring furniture, clothes, or dishes for newcomers, assistance with creating a resume and finding a job, or teaching people how to navigate Canadian laws and the medical system. As these tangible needs are met, relationships are built. “We invite them into our homes for meals and games,” Ruth shares. “We take them on hiking trips, picnics, outings, and out for coffee.” This is particularly important in this type of ministry because most immigrants come to Canada from cultures that value hospitality. Conversely, Canadians do not typically prioritize hospitality and consequently many newcomers feel lonely and isolated. Inviting folks to various gatherings and outings allows the team to spend extended time hearing people’s stories, struggles, hopes, and dreams. When she speaks about building friendships, Ruth’s heart for the people she serves is evident. “Hearing their stories, it’s easy to love them, and many have become close friends,” Ruth says. “We recognize the value of steady one-on-one relationships.”
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