The Enneagram for Missionaries: Tips for Overseas Life

Heidi Chupp • Oct 26, 2020

I don’t even recognize myself anymore , Christine thought to herself. Have I changed this much?

Christine knew that she was going through an intensely stressful season of life — starting a new business with her new husband, while navigating a new culture and new language in a new country. She’d been preparing for the external upheaval.

But what she didn’t expect was the upheaval she saw in herself.

Some of her actions and thoughts surprised and disturbed her: Anger at her circumstances, and her excessive attempts to control them. Difficulty in expressing her feelings and needs. Frustration at her limited ability to be useful and help others, something that usually came naturally and easily.

“[I] didn’t really feel like me,” Christine says.

And then she discovered a tool that brought clarity to her confusion.

“I had an epiphany moment,” Christine says. “The core of who I am didn’t change; I was in a season of stress and handling it in unhealthy ways.”

A Life-Giving Tool

The tool Christine discovered was the Enneagram , a personality typing system that describes human nature in nine main ways.

At its very essence, the Enneagram is all about motivation, what drives a person to do what they do . Each of the nine personality types has a different core motivation.

In stress, each number takes on the unhealthy characteristics of another number. And in times of security and thriving, each number displays the healthy attributes of a different number. The ultimate goal is for each individual to grow toward integrating the healthy responses of all nine types.

Learning your Enneagram type can help you understand how you handle stress and how to better communicate with teammates.

The Enneagram gave Christine words to communicate to herself and to others what was happening inside her. She not only gained insight about the unhealthy areas of her life, but she learned to process her many transitions in productive ways.

“What I love most about the Enneagram,” she recently wrote, “is that it gives me a language for expressing things I already think and emotions I already feel. It helps me understand myself and gives me the tools to feel understood by others .”

Today, Christine shares the clarity she’s received from the Enneagram with expats just like herself. Now a certified Enneagram coach, she sends out a monthly newsletter and posts on social media under @EnneagramfortheExpat and with the hashtag #EnneagramfortheExpat.

A growing number of her readers are missionaries seeking to understand themselves as they navigate life abroad .

Linda,* a regional coordinator for TEAM member care, sees the Enneagram as both practical and pivotal for missionaries navigating the unique aspects of expat life.

“I think that it has great impact for spiritual growth, to know yourself better and what your motivations are — really — and to be able to take those things to the Lord,” Linda says.

What the Enneagram Means for Missionaries

So what can the Enneagram look like in overseas missionary life?

First, if you’re new to the Enneagram, you might want to check out this beginner’s guide. Christine also recommends this free assessment to explore what your type might be. She warns that no assessment will give a perfect result, but it can give you a strong starting point.

For those already familiar, Christine says the Enneagram can provide key insights for missionaries of all types.

One – The Reformer

Ones are often called “Reformers” and their primary motivation is to be good, to have integrity and to be balanced. In culture stress, these natural rule-followers may feel upheaval while learning the rules of a new society (and probably breaking a few of those rules, to their great distress). As Ones learn a new language , their challenge will be to quiet their inner critics. Asking others for help in understanding new social cues and expectations will go a long way for them. When Ones are in a place of health, they take themselves less seriously and bring stability to their community.

Two – The Helper

The core motivation for Twos, the “Helpers,” is to be loved and appreciated. Their desire to develop connections with people in their host country will energize their language learning. Because their options for being useful in their new surroundings are initially so limited, Twos may feel a low sense of self-worth. But when they learn to communicate their own needs and set healthy boundaries, Twos have the freedom to generously give their time and energy, and they become an indispensable part of the missionary team.

Three – The Achiever

Threes, the “Achievers,” desire more than anything to be admired, valued and respected. Culture stress can expose their inexperience or lack of knowledge, and they will naturally try to numb these triggers or to procrastinate. Their instinctive drive to succeed will help with language learning — until it gets derailed by feelings of incompetence. Threes grow toward health when they remember that they are more than their accomplishments, and when they give themselves time and space in their new culture. Their passion is a gift to their communities.

Four – The Individualist

Fours are also known as “Individualists” and are primarily motivated by finding significance in their unique identity. Learning a new language may at first feel mechanical to Fours as they struggle to find ways to express themselves deeply. They may feel a heightened sense of anxiety in culture stress, worrying that new acquaintances will soon discover their defects. But when Fours feel secure and grounded, they’re able to express their creativity and add great beauty to the world around them.

Five – The Investigator

Fives, the “Investigators,” deeply desire to be capable and competent. When learning a new language, Fives are naturals at soaking up new information, so they work best when they can set their own pace and have the freedom to learn in a style that fits them. The stress of a new culture may cause them to withdraw or close themselves off. But when Fives have the chance to spend some time alone and refuel, they can offer valuable insights and wisdom to their community.

Six – The Loyalist

Sixes, also known as “Loyalists,” are motivated by security, support and guidance. The stress from living in new and still unpredictable surroundings can trigger all kinds of worst-case scenarios for Sixes. The pressure to learn a new language quickly can add even more anxiety. When Sixes are in a healthy place, their grip on control will loosen and they will feel more spontaneous and relaxed. Their natural sense of responsibility is a great gift to those around them.

Seven – The Enthusiast

Sevens, the “Enthusiasts,” are primarily motivated by having their needs met and feeling satisfied. Arriving in a new country may at first be an exciting adventure for Sevens, but at some point, the honeymoon phase ends and they may become more rigid. They may feel frustrated at the uncomfortable emotions that rise during the language learning process. When Sevens are settled in their new surroundings, they find contentment in both the ordinary and the special moments of life. Their ability to bring others together is a meaningful gift to their community.

Eight – The Challenger

The core motivation for Eights, known as “Challengers,” is to protect themselves and to be in control of their life. For an Eight, culture stress means entering into a place of weakness, and they may quickly resort to anger or assertiveness in an attempt to gain back control. Learning a new language is uncomfortable for the same reasons, but if Eights lean into that discomfort, it may drive them to become proficient. When Eights are in a healthy place, they don’t always feel the need to take the lead, and can offer the world both their passion and their vulnerability.

Nine – The Peacemaker

Nines, the “Peacemakers,” are primarily motivated by inner peace of mind and stability. They may feel overwhelmed by the language-learning process and slow down their efforts and progress. Living in a new culture can cause all kinds of tension and conflict to rise up, exactly what Nines try to avoid. But as they learn the value of taking risks, they grow in health and can be a unifying force in group settings.

Looking at the Enneagram with Jesus

Using the Enneagram

Like any tool, the Enneagram needs to be used with a heart pointed toward Christ. Reflect on it with Him and with your mission teammates.

As Christine continued to dig deeper into the Enneagram, she discovered that she was a Two, “the Helper.”

Her anger, her desire to control, her inability to truly know what she needed — these were behaviors and feelings coming from the unhealthy side of an Eight. As she grew to understand herself, she also grew in health , displaying the attitudes and actions of a healthy Four: compassionate, creative, emotionally aware and serving without any strings attached.

This understanding has deepened Christine’s faith, allowing her to contribute to a series of Enneagram-based devotionals.

Linda says that personal spiritual growth is just the beginning of the benefits that missionaries can gain from exploring the Enneagram. She sees the positive impact expanding out to relationships too.

“As we grow individually, that will help us in any relational dynamic,” she explains. “If I’m using [the Enneagram] to grow, I’m going to be a healthier teammate.”

To “look at it with Jesus” through the entire process is key, she says. That’s what brings the Enneagram to a whole new level.

*Name changed for safety reasons

By Megan Lunsford 23 Apr, 2024
When seeking to serve cross-culturally with an authentic love for others, there’s no better example for us than Jesus. If we sat around a table and threw out the question, “How do we love like Jesus?” I think we would have several commonalities as we respond. For example, Jesus loved all people right where they were. He loved those who were deemed the least, those hardest to love, or those who were His enemies. These are all beautiful realities of the heart of Jesus. When we step into relationships, it can be easier to take on the warmer, more gracious gestures of Jesus’ love, especially in cross-cultural relationships. Think about it––when doing life with those who look and act differently than us, we are already out of our comfort zones and would rather keep things as simple and familiar as possible. But there are other facets of Jesus’ heart we often overlook that can transform us and others even more into His likeness. Jesus is love because God is love. Everything Jesus did was out of love; it’s the mere definition of who He is. As followers of Jesus, He calls us to the same: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” (1 John:7-12) Every display of love we offer to others is an opportunity for them to encounter the ultimate love of the Father. That’s a pretty big deal! In this article, we’ll look at three expressions of Jesus’ love that we tend to overlook when engaging others cross-culturally. (Next month, we’ll look at three more.) 1. Jesus loved sacrificially. Everywhere Jesus went, crowds followed Him. We even see times in Scripture where Jesus had plans to step away for time alone but those who were hurting found Him and He had compassion on them and stayed with them. Can you imagine rarely having any time to yourself but, instead, constantly being surrounded by crowds of people wanting help from you? Jesus loved sacrificially. He welcomed all who came to Him with love and compassion, never turning anyone away. “When He saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” (Matthew 9:36) In the same way, we can make room in our lives for Jesus to bring sacrificial interruptions which, in His eyes, are orchestrated encounters to transfer His love to others. It can be tempting to be so “on mission” that we are full steam ahead and find ourselves frustrated when the Holy Spirit sends an interruption into our path that we feel we don’t have time for. Or, perhaps, we have scheduled a meet-up but it’s the norm in another culture to be 30 minutes or an hour late. We anxiously think through how it will affect whatever we have planned next. While it’s normal to feel a little stressed, what if the very "interruption” standing in front of you was really a divine appointment sent by God? Or what if that person running late experiences how peaceful and gracious you are in adapting to their culture and therefore, they can encounter a beautiful display of Jesus’ love? To truly represent Christ, we should remain ready and willing for each assignment the Lord sends into our path, no matter the cost or how much we will have to re-route our day. He is always a hundred steps ahead and will work all things for His glory and our good. 2. Jesus loved by discerning each situation well. Think about how many situations Jesus had to respond to on a daily basis. We read in Scripture that there were lines of people waiting to be healed by Him, talk to Him, hear His teachings, or simply touch the hem of His robe. Jesus was fully dependent on His Father to discern each situation before addressing it. “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” (John 5:19) Another temptation we can have when in a relationship with those God has sent us to is to think we already know the solution or what God wants to do before we’ve even asked Him. We believe we are full of knowledge, so we just pull from the bank we have stored within and go with it. However, when we access what is familiar to us as our default, we risk missing out on a God-given solution that might truly be the key to unlocking whatever challenge is in front of us. What does this look like when interacting with others? We can simply ask, “God, what is on Your heart for the person standing in front of me?” Then we listen and respond as He speaks. When we make it a daily habit to pause and hear God’s heart for each situation before responding, we are guaranteed to be effective in loving those around us. He knows the heart of every person that will cross our paths. Imagine how impactful we can be if we first lean on His wisdom and discernment before moving forward. 3. Jesus loved by speaking truth. Most of us are familiar with the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well. If we are honest, this conversation makes us a bit nervous as none of us would be comfortable with Jesus calling out intimate details of our lives that we would prefer to hide. But Jesus went further than just airing her dirty laundry. He offered her the hope of the Gospel and a relationship with Him - a divine fulfillment that could never be found in an earthly relationship. Jesus modeled a powerful example of loving others well cross-culturally. He took the low place and spoke truth, truly out of love––speaking to her heart from His. Like Jesus, our goal in sharing the truths about Him and His Word is to bring hope and satisfaction through Him alone. When we speak truth from Scripture, we are calling others higher into all God has for them. The tricky part here is we should avoid speaking truth if it isn’t first fueled by compassion. If it merely comes from a place of judgment, condemnation, or self-righteousness, it will fall flat 100% of the time. But if it truly comes from love, you are likely to not only win a heart back to the Father but, like the story of the Samaritan woman, even an entire village! If you see someone living outside of God’s best for their lives, ask God to show you your heart before engaging theirs. Once your heart is properly postured, you can speak truth out of an overflow of God’s love and trust Him for a transformation in their lives.
By Suzanne Pearson 16 Apr, 2024
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