A Suicidal Mom and the Bully Who Reached Her

Brianna Langley • Feb 15, 2018

As the phone rang on the other end, Elina* didn’t know what to expect.

How would her Hindu priest react when she told him she was planning to take her own life? That she was at the end of her rope? That even the thought of her three kids wasn’t enough to stop her?

She longed for words of comfort and direction.

Instead, the priest promptly told her he was too busy to deal with her.

So when her friend had suggested Elina call their Christian pastor before doing anything, she had nothing to lose.

But Simon Kumaresal is no ordinary pastor. His large build and deep voice are enough to intimidate almost anyone. And his dark eyes tell the story of his checkered past.

Simon was an alcoholic before he turned 22. Before he was saved, Simon lived a life that revolved around stealing money and bullying people — to the point that he caused two people to commit suicide.

That might sound like an odd person to talk someone off the ledge. But that day, he was Elina’s last hope.

A Bully Turned Pastor

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After Simon was saved, he and his wife, Christine, decided to pursue a life of ministry. But first, they needed a solid Bible education. Photo by TEAM

For Simon, his last hope had come in the form of a tenacious pastor, years earlier.

“Almost every day, he was around, and I would be drunk or whatever. And, he was so persistent. He was there,” Simon says. “He would comfort me, mentor me, talk to me about Jesus Christ.”

One day, the pastor asked whether Simon believed he was going to heaven or hell, and the walls around Simon’s heart finally crumbled.

Before he knew it, tears of repentance were streaming down his face. Simon gave his heart to Christ that day and never looked back.

Less than a year later, Simon and his wife, Christine sensed God calling them to a life of ministry. Through the recommendation of a friend, they found Durban Bible College and enrolled.

Before Simon even graduated, he was pastoring a church.

A Pastor Willing to Listen

When Elina called her friend’s pastor that day, she was astonished by the response. Simon not only answered the phone but also talked with her and even prayed with her. He assured her that suicide was not the answer.

“The pastor had time for me,” Elina says. “He didn’t even know me, but [he heard] me out, helped me through.”

Soon, Elina began visiting Simon’s church. In just over one month, she gave her heart to the only One who could truly care for it — Jesus.

Her Son Saw the Transformation

Not everyone was thrilled with Elina’s conversion.

When Elina told her 19-year-old son, Harith*, about her newfound faith, his response was loud and clear: “Keep your Christian religion to yourself. Keep your Jesus to yourself. … I’m born a Hindu; I’ll die a Hindu.”

But even Harith couldn’t deny the change in his mother. Eventually, he agreed to accompany her to church — and wait in the car until the service ended.

Elina was undaunted. She kept inviting her son to church, and the next time he went, he decided to go inside.

After the sermon, he thanked Simon for helping his mother. And then, he couldn’t help but cry.

When Simon asked him what was wrong, all Harith could say was, “I don’t know. I think your Jesus got a hold of me. I just feel so loved.

That day, Harith gave his life to the Savior he’d said he never wanted.

He Wanted His Dad to Know Christ

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Thanks to your support, graduates of local Bible schools are being equipped to share the Gospel and see whole families and communities come to Christ. Photo by TEAM

Harith was determined to share this Good News with one person in particular: his father, Elina’s ex-husband.

After some persuading, Harith’s father, Mohan*, agreed to go with his son to a Sunday church service. Just like his son, he opted to stay in the car until it was over.

But Simon had seen this before. Without hesitation, he went up to the car and invited Mohan to come inside.

“I’m gonna come with ashes over my head,” Mohan said, referencing Hindu tradition.

“Then come with your ashes over your head,” said Simon patiently. “In fact, you can come with the entire temple too.”

So Mohan started attending church services with his son.

And after many weeks, many questions and many tears, he too gave his heart to Christ.

An Entire Family Saved — Thanks to You!

Through one man’s choice to enroll in Durban Bible College, an entire family was brought to faith. Even Elina’s two young daughters, who are only 13 and 4 years old, are now witnessing to their friends and neighbors.

Elina’s story is incredible, but it isn’t out of the ordinary.

Through support from friends like you, Bible colleges train and equip believers to step out in faith every day! And the results are incredible.

Simon and Christine know they are fortunate to see firsthand the fruits of their labor.

“You know, it’s people like [Elina] that make us realize that God put us here for a reason,” said Christine. “If we didn’t have that conversation with her that day when she wanted to commit suicide, she wouldn’t be where she is now.”

*Names changed to protect privacy.

By Megan Lunsford 23 Apr, 2024
When seeking to serve cross-culturally with an authentic love for others, there’s no better example for us than Jesus. If we sat around a table and threw out the question, “How do we love like Jesus?” I think we would have several commonalities as we respond. For example, Jesus loved all people right where they were. He loved those who were deemed the least, those hardest to love, or those who were His enemies. These are all beautiful realities of the heart of Jesus. When we step into relationships, it can be easier to take on the warmer, more gracious gestures of Jesus’ love, especially in cross-cultural relationships. Think about it––when doing life with those who look and act differently than us, we are already out of our comfort zones and would rather keep things as simple and familiar as possible. But there are other facets of Jesus’ heart we often overlook that can transform us and others even more into His likeness. Jesus is love because God is love. Everything Jesus did was out of love; it’s the mere definition of who He is. As followers of Jesus, He calls us to the same: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” (1 John:7-12) Every display of love we offer to others is an opportunity for them to encounter the ultimate love of the Father. That’s a pretty big deal! In this article, we’ll look at three expressions of Jesus’ love that we tend to overlook when engaging others cross-culturally. (Next month, we’ll look at three more.) 1. Jesus loved sacrificially. Everywhere Jesus went, crowds followed Him. We even see times in Scripture where Jesus had plans to step away for time alone but those who were hurting found Him and He had compassion on them and stayed with them. Can you imagine rarely having any time to yourself but, instead, constantly being surrounded by crowds of people wanting help from you? Jesus loved sacrificially. He welcomed all who came to Him with love and compassion, never turning anyone away. “When He saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” (Matthew 9:36) In the same way, we can make room in our lives for Jesus to bring sacrificial interruptions which, in His eyes, are orchestrated encounters to transfer His love to others. It can be tempting to be so “on mission” that we are full steam ahead and find ourselves frustrated when the Holy Spirit sends an interruption into our path that we feel we don’t have time for. Or, perhaps, we have scheduled a meet-up but it’s the norm in another culture to be 30 minutes or an hour late. We anxiously think through how it will affect whatever we have planned next. While it’s normal to feel a little stressed, what if the very "interruption” standing in front of you was really a divine appointment sent by God? Or what if that person running late experiences how peaceful and gracious you are in adapting to their culture and therefore, they can encounter a beautiful display of Jesus’ love? To truly represent Christ, we should remain ready and willing for each assignment the Lord sends into our path, no matter the cost or how much we will have to re-route our day. He is always a hundred steps ahead and will work all things for His glory and our good. 2. Jesus loved by discerning each situation well. Think about how many situations Jesus had to respond to on a daily basis. We read in Scripture that there were lines of people waiting to be healed by Him, talk to Him, hear His teachings, or simply touch the hem of His robe. Jesus was fully dependent on His Father to discern each situation before addressing it. “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” (John 5:19) Another temptation we can have when in a relationship with those God has sent us to is to think we already know the solution or what God wants to do before we’ve even asked Him. We believe we are full of knowledge, so we just pull from the bank we have stored within and go with it. However, when we access what is familiar to us as our default, we risk missing out on a God-given solution that might truly be the key to unlocking whatever challenge is in front of us. What does this look like when interacting with others? We can simply ask, “God, what is on Your heart for the person standing in front of me?” Then we listen and respond as He speaks. When we make it a daily habit to pause and hear God’s heart for each situation before responding, we are guaranteed to be effective in loving those around us. He knows the heart of every person that will cross our paths. Imagine how impactful we can be if we first lean on His wisdom and discernment before moving forward. 3. Jesus loved by speaking truth. Most of us are familiar with the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well. If we are honest, this conversation makes us a bit nervous as none of us would be comfortable with Jesus calling out intimate details of our lives that we would prefer to hide. But Jesus went further than just airing her dirty laundry. He offered her the hope of the Gospel and a relationship with Him - a divine fulfillment that could never be found in an earthly relationship. Jesus modeled a powerful example of loving others well cross-culturally. He took the low place and spoke truth, truly out of love––speaking to her heart from His. Like Jesus, our goal in sharing the truths about Him and His Word is to bring hope and satisfaction through Him alone. When we speak truth from Scripture, we are calling others higher into all God has for them. The tricky part here is we should avoid speaking truth if it isn’t first fueled by compassion. If it merely comes from a place of judgment, condemnation, or self-righteousness, it will fall flat 100% of the time. But if it truly comes from love, you are likely to not only win a heart back to the Father but, like the story of the Samaritan woman, even an entire village! If you see someone living outside of God’s best for their lives, ask God to show you your heart before engaging theirs. Once your heart is properly postured, you can speak truth out of an overflow of God’s love and trust Him for a transformation in their lives.
By Suzanne Pearson 16 Apr, 2024
TEAM Canada provides warm welcome and trusted friendships for diaspora populations living far from their native countries. As TEAM Canada workers Peter and Ruth (names changed) drive from their home to a nearby community center, they pass numerous apartment buildings and townhouses. Most of the families who live there are immigrants. They’ve left their countries of origin due to political unrest, trauma, and other difficulties. They’ve left family, friends, homes, jobs, and personal wealth behind. They search for peace, justice for the oppressed, and rest from fear and weariness. And as they adjust to a new country and a new language, they are often very isolated from others around them. “The sad reality is most immigrants are never even invited inside a Canadian home,” says Ruth. Peter and Ruth and their team try to change that reality. For the last nine years, the team, which includes workers from partner organizations as well as volunteers, has held English classes at the community center. Three days a week, over 60 students from more than 20 countries come together to learn English as well as to fellowship together and receive practical help in assimilating to a new normal. Meeting Needs and Building Trust That practical help may come in the form of procuring furniture, clothes, or dishes for newcomers, assistance with creating a resume and finding a job, or teaching people how to navigate Canadian laws and the medical system. As these tangible needs are met, relationships are built. “We invite them into our homes for meals and games,” Ruth shares. “We take them on hiking trips, picnics, outings, and out for coffee.” This is particularly important in this type of ministry because most immigrants come to Canada from cultures that value hospitality. Conversely, Canadians do not typically prioritize hospitality and consequently many newcomers feel lonely and isolated. Inviting folks to various gatherings and outings allows the team to spend extended time hearing people’s stories, struggles, hopes, and dreams. When she speaks about building friendships, Ruth’s heart for the people she serves is evident. “Hearing their stories, it’s easy to love them, and many have become close friends,” Ruth says. “We recognize the value of steady one-on-one relationships.”
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